Are You a Giver or Taker?

This week’s post is borrowed from an author and blogger I follow on a regular basis at 48Days.com. Dan Miller is an awesome writer and I would highly recommend checking him out, especially if you’re thinking about a career move or starting your own business.

The name of his article is Be the Giving Brother.


Giving Brother

There is a story of a little boy who was admiring a shiny, brand-new sports car parked on a quiet street.  He slowly walked around the amazing vehicle, savoring every angle.  As he pushed his nose up against the window to get a better view of the inside, the voice of the owner coming up behind startled him.

Bob asked, “You like my car?”  “Oh yeah, mister.  It’s awesome.” was the reply.

Red GT

The proud owner said, “My brother gave it to me for Christmas.”

“Your brother gave it to you?  Didn’t cost you nothing?” the young boy asked.

“Yep, my brother gave it to me.  It didn’t cost me a penny.”

“Wow – I wish….,” the young boy began.  And of course Bob knew how he would finish the sentence  “……I wish I had a brother like that.”

But Bob was stunned when the little boy said, “I wish I could be a brother like that.”

Just this week I talked to a gentleman who is grieving the recent death of his mother.  But rather than sharing that grief with his brother and two sisters, they are already involved in a horrendous fight about dividing possessions.  None of them are in need, but the thought of getting something for nothing has erased family ties and apparently all civility.  Instead of being generous, they have allowed greed to wipe out compassion and long-standing relationships.

Which brother (or sister-my insert) are you?

What was your first instinct?  Are you waiting for a hand-out from the company, the government, the lottery, or an inheritance?  Are you hoping for an unexpected and undeserved gift to make your life better?

Or are you doing the things today to guarantee your success three years from now?  The things that identify you as a leader.  The things that will allow you to be the giving brother (or sister-my insert) rather than the taker?

What would it feel like to be able to give a car to someone?

Or a house, a bag of groceries from the store or two dollars to the guy selling newspapers on the corner?  Build your giving muscles rather than your fighting, taking ones.  The default position is to want to be the person who receives.  It takes intentionality and a mindset of abundance to want to be the one who gives. But that will open doors of opportunity that most people will never experience!


Just a short post with a very powerful message! I believe our world would be in a much better place if we had more givers and less takers!

Compassion and generosity towards others are amazing and potentially life-changing character traits to possess.

See you next week for more Wisdom Matters!

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